Who does Domestic Violence & Child Abuse affect?

When most people think of Domestic Violence they think of Women being beaten, Injured, Disfigured and or Murdered. But to believe that is a disservice to those who are Victims of Domestic violence. Here are a few facts!

Definition of Domestic Violence:

Domestic violence, also known as domestic abuse, spousal abuse or intimate partner violence (IPV), can be broadly defined as a pattern of abusive behaviors by one or both partners in an intimate relationship such as marriage, dating, family, friends or cohabitation. Domestic violence has many forms including physical aggression (hitting, kicking, biting, shoving, restraining, slapping, throwing objects), or threats thereof; sexual abuse; emotional abuse; controlling or domineering; intimidation; stalking; passive/covert abuse (e.g., neglect); and economic deprivation^] Alcohol consumption and mental illness can be co-morbid with abuse, and present additional challenges when present alongside patterns of abuse.

Awareness, perception and documentation of domestic violence differs from country to country, and from era to era. Estimates are that only about a third of cases of domestic violence are actually reported in the United States and the United Kingdom. According to the Centers for Disease Control, domestic violence is a serious, preventable public health problem affecting more than 32 million Americans, or over 10% of the U.S. population.

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Every year in Trinidad and Tobago at least 20 women are murdered, disfigured or severely hurt due to domestic violence committed either by their husband, boyfriend, or common-Law-Husband. On paper there are several agencies that "offer" assistance to victims but does the programs work? "Hazel" spoke with me on that topic. She was a victim of domestic violence for over 34 years at the hands of her husband. He has committed every crime someone can commit on another human being except for killing her. She has the marks and scars to prove it. A tiny woman 3'9" and 109lbs did her duties faithfully for 34yrs for her husband "Eddie." She has been with Eddie since she was 14yrs old.

Her story will surely bring tears to your eyes, but Hazel, being that strong woman she is, does not want pity nor sympathy, what she wants is help for other women who are going through or will potentially go through the same thing as her. The government programs are there but useless. The directors and councilors are of no use. They tell you more of what to do around the place as opposed to assist in helping you heal your soul. I made it safely through the last 5yrs becasuse I was determined to, not because of the government program.